ProxRewards (Proxri)

Quick
A ProxReward is a reward which relates elements in the proximity. As such, it is often a reward made with the proximity in mind. ProxRewards are also called proxri for short (pronounced prox’ree).

Complete
A ProxReward is a reward which relates elements in the proximity. As such, it is often a reward made with the proximity in mind. ProxRewards are not only money. ProxRewards can be money and/or elements of your choice. ProxRewards can be many different elements or relationships which help relate elements in the proximity. So there can be many varieties of ProxRewards (see Many Rewards in Life below). ProxRewards are also called proxri for short (pronounced prox’ree). We use proxri for both the singular ProxReward and the plural ProxRewards (more on that below). ProxRewards can be an essential part of Vadi Agreements.

Many Rewards in Life
In life and in situations in which differences arise, rewards can take many forms. A reward might be a thank you, a wink, a hug, or a favor owed. A reward might be money or some financial instrument. It might be some service or connection or referral. A reward might be advice. A reward might even be the mutual acknowledgment that nothing is owed – that it is just what friends, neighbors, or associates do for each other. A reward might also be mutual enjoyment or shared experience. Considered in this broad way, we give and receive a wide range of rewards in life.

Insights into ProxRewards
ProxRewards become appropriate in many situations as ProxPatterns and the Core Idea are used to suggest ProxRewards. ProxRewards also invite people to use and consider aspects of the Growth Model, including consideration of ProxMonitors. [[[(Warning – Links go to main site until next triple bracket.) A full discussion of rewards of this type can be found at PPs: Rewards and Other Arguments. Other insights into ProxRewards can be found at Some People.]]]

ProxRewards in Practice
ProxRewards (proxri) in practice are sort of like the give and take of a neighborhood, relationship, friendship or perhaps being a considerate traveler. You may want the neighborhood, relationship, friendship or location you’re visiting to survive, thrive, and take care of you as you take care of it. You may also want it to persist, adapt and change as needed, which is how proximities stay sustainable and life stays interesting. Relationships of this kind persist longer than transactions, so [[[our relationship and Proxri Deal]]] continues whether you use the site online or the ideas and concepts offline. Here are a few examples of what ProxRewards (or proxri) might look like:
• Sometimes you might ProxReward (proxri) based on the other party’s needs, to help them meet a goal or do something.
• Sometimes you might proxri to nurture the people and atmosphere of your neighborhood or proximity.
• Sometimes you might consider your position as primary, such as when your resources are especially low in some ways, or especially high in some ways. If your money resources are low, you might not proxri much, or proxri with resources you do have in abundance, such as time or networks or skill. If your some of your resources are high, you might proxri a little extra, or for times in the past when you didn’t proxri.
• Sometimes you might proxri in relation to your rewards and benefits. Let’s say the other party’s efforts helped you in a very rewarding way. So, you proxri in a way that is more like paying a commission or consulting fee or a very generous thank you of some sort.
• Sometimes you might proxri to support the other party’s efforts, potential, or for other reasons, to some extent regardless of any benefits you may have gained.
• Sometimes you might not proxri. A proxri relationship doesn’t require or force you to do anything. It’s more like a suggestion or request. Like other standards of behavior, it is voluntary, yet can become customary with room for individuality. Plus, there are limits to what each person in a relationship can know, so sometimes we can’t tell what is going on. We also know that situations are variable. But a proxri relationship does offer opportunities to relate.
• Sometimes you may really take the proximity of your relationship with the other party into account, and perhaps using some ProxPatterns, discover some new, better or more enjoyable ways to relate elements in the proximity as your proxri.

Opportunities to Relate
The use of ProxRewards presents opportunities for relationships, remembering that a relationship is any kind of association or connection between elements. Vadi Agreements such as our [[[Proxri Deal ask people to relate (in this case, proxri) with the Proximity of the Proxri Deal]]] in mind, which includes elements in your proximity as well as our combined proximity. The goal of a Proxri Deal is for valuable differences to persist, adapt and change as needed, which is how proximities stay sustainable. Since there are limits to what people can know about each other and about proximities, there are limits to ProxRewards, but the same can be said about money, love and pretty much any other element or relationship. The focus on relationships and the proximity opens up a range of possibilities, from the use of suggested ProxRewards, to situations where some people don’t ProxReward (or at least not in the way you were hoping or planning for), to various creative and other possibilities. Perhaps ProxRewards can be more effective in some situations, since the proximity is more explicitly taken into account by the related people. Perhaps ProxRewards may be useful in situations which are informationally or relationally dense, which is true of more and more situations.

ProxRewards and ProxPatterns
ProxRewards become appropriate in many situations as we relate using ProxPatterns.

A Shorter Word
As people get comfortable with the ProxReward concept, it will be convenient to use a shorter word for it. We are using proxri (pronounced prox’ree) as short for ProxReward. It does not always have to be capitalized. Like the word reward, the word proxri can work as a noun and a verb. So you can reward with a proxri, as well as proxri someone. The plural is also proxri, and the past tense is proxried.

Possible New Standard
ProxRewards could become a new standard. We have a need for more flexible and optional rewards, and the awareness that goes with using them.

Adopt Them and Reward
We invite you to adopt the related standards in the Growth Model, of which the ProxRewards are a part. [[[(Warning – Links go to main site until next triple bracket.) If you do, we ask you to ProxReward us as a part of our IP Deal, for pioneering the standards. For more, see Adopt (r].]]] Thank you.