Connected, but frustrated. ProxThink, be more alive.

We live in a world of connections, but…

• We often struggle with collaboration, in many areas but especially at larger scales, from neighborhoods and organizations to globally.
• We’re not that good at talking about, relating to, and using our connectedness.
• We can get needlessly stuck in some situations and don’t enjoy enough variety, even though connectedness allows great flexibility.

Frustrating, to say the least. These challenges affect the quality of our lives. Sometimes, such struggles have life and death consequences.

In a connected world, proximity thinking approaches should transform how we create, collaborate and live, enhancing life and helping avoid some painful adjustments. Why? Proximity thinking is built around the idea that being is about relating, which is about connectedness.

Do we humans feel vibrantly alive? Are we meeting our challenges as well as we might? Doing so enjoyably? Individually and in groups? Could be better? Watch this short video. You’ll see why things might not be going well, and how proximity thinking can help. I developed it. I hope it helps and think it can. It should make many situations more enjoyable …
—David Loughry

For a faster start, take the online course Let’s Be More Alive — Intro to ProxThink mentioned in the video. You’ll get proximity-oriented approaches for our increasingly proximity-oriented world. There’s no set price, but rather a minimum proxri, which may work better in a connected world. There is also a trials version, with bonuses. Learn more and sign up at

More about Proximity Thinking
Proximity thinking
 is thinking with this proximity-focused framework, which consists of some basic ideas, patterns, models and tools. Proximity thinking can be used in proximities which may be personal, interpersonal, organizational, market-oriented, local, regional, global, or unique to your situation.

Why proximity?
We don’t have a frequent way of talking about, and relating to, a group of elements related to a situation, whether those elements are people, places, things, ideas, feelings, relationships, groups, times, processes, or whatever else seemed related to the situation. This way of talking and relating needs to encompass general concepts like contexts and environments. Yet it also needs to be flexible enough to handle elements that are related to a situation but not part of the immediate context or environment. And, it needs to handle groups of elements related to situations as diverse as those involving regions, communities, neighborhoods, offices, projects and even parties and conversations. The word proximity, the meaning of which includes nearness in relationship, can help. In proximity thinking, the proximity consists of elements related or potentially related to a situation, in physical, mental and other ways.

You can often benefit from ProxThink without understanding every part of it. Why? Because ProxThink uses fairly basic words in pretty typical ways.

A mobile version and a backup copy.
This site is a mobile version and a backup copy for the proximity thinking framework on the main site at For more, please see About.

Where to start?
The conceptual parts of the proximity thinking framework consist of the Basics, the ProxPatterns, and the Growth Model. Each builds on the last, but you can start with whichever one interests you. They are related, so starting with one will lead, sooner or later, to the others. The ProxPatterns are perhaps the most useful for everyday thinking and relating, so you might want to start with the ProxPatterns.

  • Basics — for describing and discussing situations.
  • ProxPatterns — for creativity, innovation and problem-solving.
  • Growth Model — for people who share a proximity.

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